Feb 9th 10
Posted by Aldohas in goal setting
A wise Chinese sage once said,
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Wise words? But what do they mean to someone who is trying to achieve their goals in life? That’s what we’ll be talking about in this article.
I am sure that you have some big goals in your life. Perhaps you want a mansion in the countryside, a sports car, or your own boat.
I am also sure that you may well be looking at this goal and thinking “How the hell am I going to get that?”
And this is where our wise philosopher comes into play.
Pick one of your major goals that you don’t know how to achieve and examine it more closely. Think about the goal and you will realise that it is made up of a number of smaller goals, each of which is in turn made up of other smaller goals.
Grab a piece of paper, write down a major goal at the top, and below it, write down the steps you can take to achieve this goal. In effect, each of these steps represents a mini-goal, and each of these mini-goals can be broken down further if necessary into more manageable chunks.
Do not become obsessed with achieving each minor step on your way to the major goal. You may find that some steps can be skipped, some become unnecessary, and that new steps appear. Review these minor steps regularly as they will change often.
Now you’ve just done this quick exercise, and you should never leave the scene of a decision without taking some action, so go do something to get yourself on the path to your goal!
An example may be that you want to buy a farm in the country. You know nothing about farms. You may break your goal down into something like:
1) Find out about farming – is it for me and what does it involve?
2) What sort of farms are there and which type do I want?
3) What is the best area for the type of farm that I want?
4) How much money do I need to buy the farm
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Buy the farm
This is a very simple illustration of breaking down your goals. Each one of these may be broken down further into actions you can take.
Now you realise, that the journey towards a goal starts with a single step, and is made up of many steps.
Originally posted 2009-08-30 01:22:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Sep 21st 09
Posted by Aldohas in goal setting
As we all have values that we live life by, whether we live up to these values is determined by a series of rules that are attached to the value. For example, we may value success, and the rule that we have attached to success is that to be successful we must earn more than $1,000,000 a year. Another person may have a rule for success saying that if they wake up each morning then they are successful. Yet another person may have a complex web of rules relating to success that ensures they never are successful by their own rules.
Most of these rules are lodged in our subconscious and we are never really aware of them on the conscious level. So you can see that it is incredibly useful for us if we become aware of these rules. It is even more beneficial for us if we can become aware of these rules and then change them to ensure we meet our values.
When changing a rule it is important that you choose rules that are achievable, but also give you room to grow and move forwards. So let’s start by finding out what some of your rules are. Write out your rules for each of the following points. You are writing down what conditions need to be met in order for you to feel a success, a failure, or so on.
• For success
• For failure
• For being loved
• For being happy
When you have written these down, write out what rules you would like to have for these. One person I know had this rule for being happy, “If I wake up each morning able to breath.” Now that’s an easy rule to meet isn’t it? Many of our rules are complex, hard to meet and often contradictory.
By defining these rules we can gain a valuable insight into the way our minds work, which allows us to take control of your life. If you have the time and inclination, why not write down some of the rules in other areas of your life too?
Remember also that other people have rules, so when you are dealing with people their rules apply too. For example, your partner will have rules for being loved within a relationship, your boss will have rules for you being successful, and your children will have rules for you being a good parent and for their success. If you can find out other peoples rules then you can use them in your dealings with them to be more fulfilled and clear in your communication.
Jun 7th 09
Posted by Aldohas in Affirmation
photo credit: TheeErin
Affirmations are spoken statements that can be of a positive or negative nature. In the popular sense of the term they are spoken commands made purposefully in order to change some aspect of our life. In order to fully understand how affirmations work and the science behind their use we must first look at the way our minds work!
When we are born our brains are like empty computers waiting to be fed information. As we grow our peers act as our programmers, they supply us with the knowledge which we channel through the conscious mind into the subconscious (our hard drive). The subconscious mind is the biggest hard drive ever developed – it stores everything we come in contact with and by no means is all of this information of a positive nature.
All that we have heard, touched, smelt, tasted and seen are stored in the recesses of our minds. The subconscious mind holds on to this information until we need to recall it. For example when you were young your curiosity lead you to investigate your surroundings. When you approached a substance that was dangerous, such as fire, your parents or guardians would most likely have rebuked or scolded you if you ventured too near the flame. Perhaps you may even recall an incident when you were physically burned. Your subconscious mind then began to relate scolding (or pain) with the intense heat of the fire and would therefore feed the feelings of the scolding incident back to you whenever you got too close to fire again, thus acting as an early warning system.
This is the mechanism used by our brains to learn. It is also the same method employed by the mind in every situation. The subconscious mind has a tendency to emulate what it sees – it tends to replicate its environment. This is why so many people find themselves in similar relationships and situations that they saw their parents in while they were growing up. Most people also hold very strongly or similar views of their parents.
Think of a time when you gave yourself praise. What words did you use? Do you use the same words that your parents or peers used when they were praising you? The same is applicable when you scold yourself.
Watch your internal dialogue. Look at it closely. It takes diligence to change the way you think. When you notice yourself thinking a negative chose to think the opposite. This way you neutralise the negative thought. Now the think the positive thought again! You have just reversed the negative thinking in that moment and remember you only have this moment. No other time exists! You are in the NOW.
The whole point of affirmations is to convince the mind that what you are repeating is the truth. As you verbalize your desire you will find negative emotions and contrary statements entering your conscious awareness. You must deal with these negative thoughts as they arise in order for your affirmations to work! Many people use affirmations with EFT or the Sedona Method in order to eliminate the negativity that comes up as a result of affirming something that feels untrue.
During your normal day daydream about what might be. Imagine things the way you wish them to be. If you catch yourself thinking “this is just a daydream – a fantasy” then stop! Think the opposite. It is not a daydream it is your reality. Now think it again. Release the resistance as it arises in whatever ay you can.
If you just repeat affirmations with no feeling, or worse, feeling that it isn’t true, then you are actually affirming the opposite in your own mind! This is why some people find their situations actually getting worse when they work with affirmations. You must release the resistance by creating the feeling that the affirmation is true.
Bob Doyle goes into this approach indepth in his wealth beyond reason audio & video courses. I have found that affirmations will only work for me if I use EFT or the sedona method.
By creating the feeling of ‘having it now’ while repeating your affirmation you will begin to retrain your subconscious mind to think positively and you will ultimately begin to consciously create a life that dreams are made of!
Read the review of affirmware – the company behind a powerful affirmation software tool that can really boost the effectiveness of your affirmations!
Apr 16th 09
Posted by Aldohas in Affirmation
Affirmations are a simple and powerful technique to shape your subconscious mind. It’s rather easy for you to explore the cyberspace to discover tones of free affirmations in different categories. I’ve as well published some other article on how you’ll be able to write your own affirmations. Only these one is going to center on ways to gain their ability!
Remember that it’s always better to stick to a certain group of affirmations awhile, since we absorb them faster this way. Also, you should feel the desired result coming about already.
Written below are 7 different way to make your free affirmations more knock-down…
1. The times just before sleeping and after waking up are great for influencing the subconscious. So make certain you use them at these times.
2. If you’re in a place where it wouldn’t be appropriate for you to use them aloud. You are able to simply repeat it to yourself mentally. It helps if you imagine it getting louder and louder.
3. .Repeat them while looking at yourself in the mirror.
4. We all tend to remember rhymes and tunes more easily. So choose your affirmations and simply get a bit creative
5. Write them down. This has much more power than simply verbally repeating it. I’d suggest that you write each one at any rate 10 times daily or so. Of course, the more you do it the better.
6. Write them down on sheets of paper and stick then around your home or workplace. This way, you’re always reminded of them. Simply make sure it is a place you visit often.
7. You should get into a relaxed state of mind. When this happens, our conscious minds are less intrusive, thus leaving our subconsciouses wide open. You should use this to your advantage.
You are probably wondering how long it will take you to see changes in yourself, right? Well, it’s scientifically proven that it takes 21 days for one person to change form one habit to another. So don’t lose heart, simply keep doing it awhile. Remember, you have an infinite number of free affirmations from which you are able to choose from!
