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Originally posted 2009-05-29 14:55:34. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
The purpose of Personal Development and Self Improvement is to aid you accomplish your goals in life. Both are planned to give you the accomplishments you need to reach whatever it is that you would like to accomplish. Just could personal development or self improvement actually improve your living situations?
Well, the role of both self improvement and personal development is to do barely that. They’re both only instruments that are used to control you will succeed in your decided life fields. They’re desgined to aid you get happier on the inside and more satisfied with what you have on the outside in any are you decided to employ them!
You could not at present know how to proceed. So what type of personal development goals should you adjust? How do you begin to build up self improvement goals that will direct you to freedom, a bigger feeling of felicity, aid you accomplish a better life-style and at last produce a lot of success in your life? This question is not simple to answer as success implies dissimilar things to another people. Hence, whenever you would like to become successful you essential first have a clear agreement of what success means to you!
A wonderful technique to get a clear on what success means for you is to ask yourself the question, “what would I do whenever I knew I could not fail?” Allow yourself to enjoy in the mental image that is developed. The imagination that is made in your mind will present you what you actually desire in life and from this visual sense you are able to see what success means to you.
From the second a human is born he/she has a natural power to acknowledge what it is they desire and a belief that they could have it. We grow ambitions and dreams at a very early age. Even so as we turn older we are in condition to think that these dreams are not possible or are simple fantasies of our imagination. You are steered to get a good training so that you are able to find a good job that will allow you to get a mortgage, get married, have children and live a ‘normal’ life.
Along the time almost people accomplish their mid twenties they have all but given up on their dreams or even buried what those dreams are. They’ve convert conditioned into trusting that they’re incompetent of reaching what they desire in life. This primal belief forms the foundation of their self image and the rest of their mental attitudes are build on it!
It is the purpose of personal development and self improvement to take out these conditioned mental attitudes from your inner mind and release you to pursue the life flow that you preferred for yourself. By the use of personal development and self improvement you are able to begin today to take away mental conditioning that you accepted from well-meaning family, peers and teachers
Additionally you will also be guided to take away all those negative mental attitudes that have been given to you along not so well-meaning people and those you’ve developed yourself through negative life experiences. While this isn’t all of the time an easy or enjoyable journey to take the advantages that you’ll get from acquiring it are immeasurable and make it really worthy.
The freedom that you can feel from taking away just one negative mental and negative emotional pattern is akin to the feeling of rest and tranquillity you feel after extreme workout. Taking away a lot of negative mental attitudes and emotional stress from your mind and body is a feeling and experience that is really hard to describe to someone who has never experienced it themselves.
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There are at your disposal a lot of personal development and self improvement techniques that are designed to assist you reach this goal. Now these instruments and techniques are not designed to show you the way to become financially free but alternatively are designed to free you from your own inner resistance to being financially free. A lot of people think this is a waste of time and would rather to be given bit by bit instructions to build financial wealth and I was once among them. However, it did not matter how much effort I used or how many ‘guaranteed’ methods I followed my financial situations didn’t improve and many times actually grew worse.
Why was this? Were the projects I was following just not good enough to make wealth? Were the people peddling these rags to wealth formulas just conning me out of my money? Was gaining riches barely pure fortune like winning the lottery?
The answer to whole of the above questions is no!
The plans I followed had worked for thousands and made them wealthy! The people selling me the products and formulas had entirely made their fortunes using the very same formulas they were trying to teach me! It was only after a great deal of hardship and a lot of learning lessons that I discovered the reality – acquiring wealth has nothing to do with being lucky!
It was not that these matters weren’t good enough to produce the wealth I craved it was that I THOUGHT I wasn’t good enough. When you hold a negative self image and have a negative view of yourself and your abilities it’s very difficuly to reach success no matter how much attempt you put into it! This is why it is of paramount importance to first take away the negative conditioning that is holding you back in life.
Your mental attitude, which is only compiled of thoughts and feelings, is responsible for your actions. Thought is the creator of action! All action you perform, no matter how small or big, first begins in your mind as a thought. For each one thought begins as a feeling.
Think of when you met your last partner. You first felt the attraction. This grew into a thought or series of thoughts about meeting the person. Then you performed some action to make that happen. Bring to mind a time when you meet with your friends to have a social gathering. You had the feeling that you’d like to have any fun, or be with your friends, were feeling alone etc. And then you had the thought. Then you performed the action.
Whenever your actions are moved by your thoughts and feelings and your attitude is compiled of thoughts and feelings do you believe you could succeed at a given task whenever you hold a negative mental attitude about it or your ability to succeed at it?
At one time you embrace personal development and begin to apply any of the myriad of self improvement instruments to take away your negative mental attitudes you’ll naturally find yourself becoming more successful in life. You actions will be more positive and you will unconsciously perform the correct actions that will lead you to success. I am sure you can know see how important it is to set some personal development goals. Not only will you see improvement in your self, you will also see many symptoms of success added unto you!
Originally posted 2009-05-11 00:39:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
How to set goals? First of all, don’t confuse wishes or desires with goals. Often, people want things, situations or accomplishments, and call these goals. Then they’re disappointed when they don’t get them. Just naming your desires isn’t effective goal setting. Good goals have some or all of the following:
1. Good goals are specific. A goal like, “I want to be healthy” is too general. “I want to lose weight and walk three times a week,” is better.
2. They’re realistic. Unfortunately, even if it is possible that you could become an astronaut, if you’re already 55, you better try to become a pilot for now. Unrealistic goals set you up for failure.
3. They’re written down. Writing down your goals is a way to make them more real, and this influences your subconscious mind, especially if you review the goals regularly.
4. They’re measurable. Exactly how many pounds do you want to lose? How much money do you want to make? How will you know if your relationship is better?
5. They’re motivating. Setting a goal for the right reasons is a good start. Good goals get you excited when you think about the benefits of accomplishing them. You should also learn how to re-motivate yourself, and reward yourself when you make progress.
6. Good goals become plans. Taking a goal and making it into specific steps makes it much more likely to be achieved. It’s easier to take one step at a time.
7. They have specific deadlines. By what date will you have a new job? Setting target dates really helps you measure progress, and motivate yourself.
8. Good goals consider personal factors. Will you succeed if you feel like you don’t deserve it? Possibly, but unlikely. You have to learn how to set goals for your personal development as part of any other major goals.
9. They’re followed by action. A secret of motivation and to getting where you want to be is to start with any movement towards the goal. Action begets action. Start slow if you must, but start.
10. They’re not written in stone. All major goals naturally evolve. Why would you become a family doctor once you learned that you liked doing lab work better?
That last one is a tough one. A change of course and an excuse are not the same thing, but to know the difference requires a certain level of self-awareness. Develop that, and you’ll be more likely to get to where you want to be. Especially if you use all ten of these keys to how to set goals.
Originally posted 2009-09-17 01:18:44. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
Believe it or not, some of the most successful people you see in the media today used to have a low self esteem. How did they overcome this and become the successful people that they are today?
You can win the battle over low self esteem with these 4 simple steps…
Affirmations are simply positive things that you say out loud to yourself every day. This can be very difficult at times because you may not actually believe what you are saying. SO why would you say something to yourself that you don’t believe?
Increased self esteem has to start with you. So, if you are shy and intimidated by people, start to say something like the following: I am NOT shy and I am NOT intimidated by people. I am VERY confident when I get around people.
Repeat this to yourself out loud at least 10 times before you leave your room. When you say this, don’t just mumble it either, say it as many times as necessary until you say it with passion and conviction.
Again, increased self esteem starts with you. Read something everyday for at least 30 minutes that will help you increase your self esteem. This can be an article, a book, or even an audio series. The more you learn the more you will grow. The more you grow, the more your self esteem will improve.
Do something every day, starting with something small, that directly deals with your low self esteem. For instance, if you can’t talk with people because you feel insecure and inferior, just start off by saying ‘Hi’. As you get more comfortable with this, then start to make small talk. You will begin to feel more confident and more confident until one day, you will find that you have overcome low self-esteem in that area.
Negative thoughts are like land mines. As soon as you step out to face your fear, a negative thought comes and tells you that you can’t do it and BOOM; you believe it and lose that round. Instead, diffuse negative thoughts before they have a chance to do damage.
A great way to do this is with a rubber band! Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time a thought comes into your head that tells you that you can’t, you will never succeed, you are a looser, or anything negative, SNAP the rubber band on your wrist.
You may be snapping that band until your wrist is red and sore. Before long though, you will stop the negative thoughts because you don’t want to hurt your wrist anymore.
These four steps will help you increase your self esteem and become the person you really want to be. Just remember this: you are not going to change over night. It will take time but as long as you are progressing, you are winning the war.
Have you ever encountered a person who feels like they are just “unfocused”. Or maybe this is happening to you. Studies have shown that many people (including very successful ones) feel this way. We often get the feeling that we’re stuck in a rut, going through the daily grind, just to stay where we are. Sort of like being on a treadmill: at the end of the day we’re spent, but what have we accomplished?
While most of us are not happy or satisfied with this feeling, some experts contend that this is really a good thing. How can that be? That seems totally against everything we’ve been taught.
The fact is, it’s the people who are not dissatisfied about being in a rut that are the ones who will never get out of it. If we are thinking about our goals, we will stand a much better chance of achieving them.
Three things to think about are:
1. What are we doing to achieve our goals? Are your goal-achieving activities consistant? Do they fit you and your personality?
2. Have you eliminated the waste in your life and your mind? What’s taking your time and energy but not helping with goal achievement?
3. Practice numbers 1 and 2 above!
Remember, though, that great achievements take time. Oh sure, we hear about this guy or that gal that came in and became the top salesperson of their Company in a few weeks flat. Does that ever happen? Sometimes. But, I would suggest that usually that person has spent time and effort elsewhere preparing for this position. Success rarely happens overnight. For example, was Tiger Woods successful the first time he picked up a golf club? I doubt it.
But back to that pit. If you feel like you really are stuck and can’t get out, try doing something radically different. Make some new goals, imagine what life will be like when you’re achieved them, get rid of what isn’t working. Think big and write down new goals or re-affirm your old ones. Also, remember to practice realistic patience.
